Ever felt that feeling of: “I am supposed to be……,” but, you feel like you are not measuring up. It’s not working. Why?
Are you trying to be ‘perfect?’
The ‘perfect’ friend, the ‘perfect’ mom, the ‘perfect’….. in your line of work, or in your life?
If you find yourself in any kind of a teaching capacity, you may feel like you have to “know it all.”
Does anybody know it all? Aren’t we all learning? Isn’t that the point of research? Research by definition tells us that we don’t “know it all.” If you are teaching, yes, you must know some things. But, to “know it all?”
Isn’t it also a childhood insult to call someone a “know-it-all?”
So, we may know and understand this, and yet there is the pressure.
The pressure to perform beyond where we are, leaving us feeling inept, under par, and never able to meet the ‘expectations.’
Lets look at the difference between adults and small children.
Children: “look what I did! I did it! I’m so big!”
They celebrate what they can do, and know that they will do more. They have the future before them. Anything is possible.
Adults: “I should have done more.” “I should have done it faster.” “Why did it take me so long to learn this?…..”
So, I say, why not say: “I am not perfect (and that is OK), I am passionate (eager, excited, animated).”
I am excited and animated about this thing that I am doing! I don’t know it all (and I don’t have to), but I want to share what I know, and what I am learning still.
Do you feel the shift? Can we let passion be our guide? Can we leave the status of ‘perfection,’ and lean instead into our passion, and live life through that lens?
So when we are asked, or ask ourselves: “are we qualified?” We can answer “YES!”
“I am a qualified and joyfully seeking more knowledge in this thing that I am passionately pursuing, and sharing with you!”
Besides…..nobody likes a “know-it-all.”